manners and conduct

Nine Things to Say Often

It is reported that Muḥammad [Ibn Sīrīn] – Allāh have mercy him – said:

We were once in the house of ʿAlqamah b. Qays. Rabīʿ b. Ḵuthaym entered upon us and sat in a corner of the house. Then he said, “Speak only a little except for nine things: subḥānallāh, al-ḥamdulillāh, lā ilāha illallāh, Allāhu ʾakbar, reciting the Qurān, enjoining good, forbidding wrong, asking Allāh for what is good and seeking His protection from harm (evil).”

Hannād b. Al-Sarīy, Al-Zuhd #1108.

Broadcasted Sins

Bilāl b. Saʿd – Allāh have mercy him – said:

When a sin is hidden it harms only the perpetrator, but if it is made apparent and not rectified, it harms all the people.

Ibn Waḍḍāḥ, Al-Bidʿah #287.

Lofty Manners & Conduct of the Salaf [Examples]

Miscellaneous Examples

It is reported that Jābir b. ʿAbdillāh – Allāh be pleased with him – said:

Have taqwā of Allāh and behave modestly (with a sense of shame), and cover yourselves; let not any of you bathe except behind a covering.

Al-Bayhaqī, Shuʿab Al-Īmān #7398.

It is reported that Mujāhid – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

It is disliked for a man to stare at his brother or follow him with his gaze when he gets up, or to ask him where he has come from.

Op. cit. #9580.

It is reported that ʿAṭā b. Abī Rabāḥ – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

Sometimes a man narrates a ḥadīth to me, so I remain quiet as if I am listening carefully, although I had heard the ḥadīth before he had even been born.

Al-Ḏahabī, Siyar Aʿlām Al-Nubalāʾ 5:87.

It is reported that Al-Aḥnaf b. Qays – Allāh have mercy on him – would try to make space whenever a man came to him, and if there was no space, he would make it appear that he was trying to make space for him.
Op. cit. 4:94

Muḥammad b. Abī Ḥātim reports:

I heard Al-Buḵārī say, “I have never eaten leek.” So I asked, “And why is that?” He replied, “I hate to annoy anyone with its foul smell.”
Op. cit. 12:445

It is reported that ʿAbdullāh b. Al-Mubārak was asked about an issue in the presence of Sufyān b. ʿUyaynah, so he said, “We have been forbidden to talk in front of our seniors.”
Op. cit. 8:420

It is reported from Al-Ḵalīl b. Aḥmad – Allāh have mercy on him – that if he ever benefitted someone with something, he would never make out that he had benefitted him, but if he ever benefitted from someone, he would show him that he had benefitted from him.
Op. cit. 7:431

It is reported that Al-Layth [b. Saʿd] – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

I used to walk with Ṭalḥah, and he [once] said, “If I knew that you were older than me by even one night, I would never walk in front of you.”

Abū Nuʿaym, Ḥilyatu Al-Awliyāʾ 5:17.

The Behavior of The Seeker of Knowledge

It is reported that ʿAlī – Allāh be pleased with him – said:

When you learn knowledge, preserve it, and do not mix it with laughter and falsehood, such that the hearts refuse (dislike) it.

Al-Khaṭīb Al-Baghdādī, Al-Jāmiʿ li-Akhlāq Al-Rāwī wa Ādāb Al-Sāmiʿ 1:232

It is reported that Mālik – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

It is upon whoever seeks knowledge to have a solemn, dignified demeanour, fearful [of Allāh]; and to follow in the footsteps of those who went before him.

ibid.

ʿAbd Al-Raḥmān b. Mahdī reports:

A man laughed in [the circle of] Hishām Al-Dustawāʾī, so Hishām said to him, “Young man! You seek knowledge laughing?” He replied, “Is it not Allāh who makes [us] laugh and cry (as stated in the Qurʾān)?” So Hishām replied, “Then go and cry.”

Op. cit. 233

Ismāʿīl b. Yaḥyā reports:

Sufyān once saw me joking with a man from Banī Shaybah at the House (Kaʿbah). I laughed, so he said to me, “You laugh here? A man used to hear a single ḥadīth and its demeanour and guidance would be seen on him for three days.”

Op. cit. 234

Sometimes the Manners Surpassed Knowledge

It is reported that Imām Al-Zuhrī – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

We used to sometimes come to a scholar and what we learned of his manners was more beloved to us than the knowledge we took from him.

Abū Nuʿaym, Ḥilyatu Al-ʾAwliyāʾ #4575