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Women and Food [Man Talk]

It is reported that Al-Aḥnaf b. Qays – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

Stay away from mentioning women and food in our gatherings, for I hate a man to constantly describe his private parts and his stomach. It is an aspect of higher conduct and religiousness that a man [sometimes] leaves eating food while he desires it.

Abū Bakr Al-Daynūrī, Al-Mujālasah wa Jawāhir Al-‘Ilm 3:44, 45.

At the deathbed of Umm Habibah

It is reported that ‘Ā`ishah – said, “Umm Ḥabībah called for me on her deathbed and said, ‘There used to occur between us the kinds of things that happen between co-wives (al-ḍarā`ir), so may Allāh forgive me and you those things.’ I said, ‘May Allāh forgive you all those things and release you from [all liability] for that.’ She replied, ‘You have made me happy, may Allāh make you happy.’ And she sent for Umm Salamah and said the same things to her.”

Al-Dhahabī, Siyar A’lām Al-Nubalā` Vol. 2 p223.

From the Etiquette of a Son with his Father

Abū Hurayrah – Allāh be pleased with him – once saw two men. He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?” He replied, “He is my father.” Abū Hurayrah said, “Do not call him by his name, do not walk in front of him and do not sit before he does.”

Al-Bukhārī, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albānī graded its chain of transmission sahīh in Sahīh Al-Adab Al-Mufrad Vol. 1 p19.

Your Children and Others

It is reported that ‘Amr b. Qays – Al-Malā`ī said, “They used to dislike a man giving his child something with which the child would then go out and be seen by a poor person, causing him to cry over his family; or be seen by an orphan who would then cry over his family.”

Imām Ahmad, Al-Zuhd Vol. 3 p268.

‘Amr b. Qays Al-Malā`ī lived in the time of the younger Tābi’ūn. He died in 146H.

Righteous Women and the Maidens of Jannah

It is reported from Hibbān b. Abī Jablah that he said, “The women of this world who enter Paradise will surpass Al-Hūr Al-‘Īn by the deeds they did in this world.”

Ibn Al-Mubārak, Al-Zuhd wa Al-Raqā`iq Vol. 4 p463.

Hibbān b. Abī Jablah is from the Tābi’ūn. He died in 122 or 125H.

Allāh knows best.