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Umar on interacting with others [trust, consultation and friendship]
It is reported that ‘Umar b. Al-Khattâb – Allâh be pleased with him – said:
Whoever exposes himself to suspicion, let him blame only himself for whoever suspects him.
He who covers his secret is in a position to choose [to correct himself].
Assume the best about your brother until what comes to you from him overcomes you [and you have to change your opinion].
Never do you pay back someone who disobeys Allâh in his dealings with you with the likes of obeying Allâh in your dealings with him.
Take righteous brothers [as friends]; acquire them in plenty, for they are a beautification in prosperity and an aid during calamity.
Do not ask about what has not yet happened until it actually happens, for what has happened is enough of an occupation to worry about what has not happened.
Let not your speech be given freely except to those who want to hear it and will value it.
Do not seek help in fulfilling a need you have except from someone who wants success for you in that endeavor.
Do not consult except people who fear Allâh, and do not accompany the sinner, [lest] you learn his sinfulness.
And be humble at the graves.
Abû Dâwûd, Kitâb Al-Zuhd article 89.
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June 4, 2010
Topics: Advice from the Salaf, Brotherhood, Character, Manners and Conduct
Names: 'Umar b. Al-Khattâb
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AsSalaamu alaykum wa HayakAllaah this is really good advice from Ameer ul Mumineen Umar RadiAllaahu anhu, but could you please clarify the following part of the advice,baarakAllaahu feekum
''Never do you pay back someone who disobeys Allâh in his dealings with you with the likes of obeying Allâh in your dealings with him.''
Asalam-Alakum brother Abu Abdir,
Someone can correct me if I am wrong InshAllah. I believe that this statements means in general, of someone deals with you in a way which DISPLEASES Allah than it should not change the fact that you should still deal with him in a way which PLEASES Allah.
In basic if someone wrongs you, you should not wrong them.
And Allah knows best
Asalam-Alakum
Wa alaykumus-Salam,
Jazakallahu khayran.
Yes this is what it basically means, and that this is the best thing you can do.
Djazakhallahu kharan!
Assalamu Alaykum!
brothers I wanted to find one hadith, I searched it, but was not able to find. The hadith is about being respected, proud and etc. It says if u want to be respected .. do that, and never complain because …. Can somebody help me to find the hadith! Djazakhullah khayr!