family

No Bachelorhood in Islām

Imâm Ahmad – Allâh have mercy in him – said:

{Voluntary] bachelorhood has nothing to do with Islâm. The Prophet – Allâh’s peace and blessings be upon him – married fourteen women, and he died being married to nine of them. If Bishr b. Al-Hârith had married, his affairs would be complete. If people left marrying no one would go to battle or go on pilgrimage (Al-Hajj), and such-and-such wouldn’t happen.

He went on to say:

The Prophet – Allâh’s peace and blessings be upon him – would wake in the morning and his family would have nothing to eat and go to bed at night and they would have nothing to eat, [yet] he died married to nine wives, he chose marriage and encouraged others to marry.

Abû Bakr Al-Marrûdhî, Kitâb Al-Wara’ p116, 117.

Save yourselves and your families

Some narrations reported from the Salaf in explanation of what it means to protect oneself and one’s family as mentioned in Al-Tahrīm verse 6:

O you who believe! Protect yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels, stern and severe, and who disobey not the commands they receive from Allāh, but do that which they are commanded. [66:6]

· ‘Alī b. Abī Ṭālib – Allah be pleased with him:

Discipline them, teach them.

· Ibn ‘Abbās – Allah be pleased with them:

Stay obedient to Allāh, stay away from disobeying Allāh and command your families to remember Allāh, and He will save you from the Fire.

· Mujāhid – Allāh have mercy on him:

Fear Allāh and obey him (practice taqwā) and tell your families to practice taqwā.

· Qatādah – Allāh have mercy on him:

A person protects his family by telling them to obey Allāh and forbidding them from disobeying Him. He upholds Allāh’s commandments and helps his family to uphold them. So if you see some disobedience of Allāh you stop them from doing it, and you reprimand them.

Al-Ṭabarī, Al-Tafsīr, Sūrah Al-Taḥrīm.

I’ll give her all she wants

A man came to Maymūn b. Mahrān – Allah be please with him – to ask for his daughter’s hand in marriage. Maymūn said, “I do not approve of her for you.” The man asked, “Why?” He replied, “Because she loves jewelry and garments.” To this the man said, “Well I have as much of those as she desires.” Maymūn said, “Now I don’t approve of you for her.”

Al-Dhahabī , Siyar A’lām Al-Nubalā` in his biography of Maymūn b. Mahrān.

Secret Tears

Muhammad b. Wāsi’ said:

I have lived amongst men who were such that one of them would lie with his wife on the same pillow and his side of the pillow would be soaked with his tears under his cheek without his wife even noticing.

Ibn Abī Al-Dunyā, Al-Ikhlās wa Al-Nīyah (Sincerity and Intentions) p34.

Muhammad b. Wāsi’ Al-Azadī Al-Basrī was one of the famous and pious Tābi’īn. He reports from Anas b. Mālik – Allah be pleased with him – and others. He died in 123H, Allah have mercy on him.

Training Children for Worship

Al-Rubay’ bint Mu’awwidh – Allah be pleased with her – said while describing how the Prophet – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – told them to fast ‘Āshūrā:

We used to make toys out of dyed wool for the children and keep them with us so if the children asked us for food we would give them the toys to distract them until they completed their fast.

Sahīh Muslim. A similar narration is also in Sahīh Al-Bukhārī.

Al-Nawawī states in his commentary on Sahīh Muslim:

In this narration we are shown that children should be trained to do acts of obedience and made used to doing worship; although they are not legally bound.